Solo Adventures

Married, single or somewhere in between, a woman’s got to take matters into her own hands every once in a while. Masturbation lets you discover what techniques and sensations work best for you, and which ones are more annoying than enjoyable. How can anyone pleasure you if you don’t know how to do it yourself? Even if you do know how to pleasure yourself, you don’t have to stop at once. Men do it, so why shouldn’t you? There’s nothing wrong with spending some intimate time alone. You can even make an evening out of it – warm bubble bath, silky moisturizers and a glass of wine, topped off with your favorite fantasy. And, if you need justification, your libido is like a muscle. The more you exercise it, the bigger it gets.

Booty Call

It might surprise you to know that anal sex is considered a normal, healthy part of the adult sexual experience, and it’s certainly not the only booty move to earn that distinction. You might not be interested in anal actions, and that is perfectly okay. If you’re harboring curiosity or fantasy about the idea, or you at least want to try it with your partner, it might give you a boost of confidence to know that you’re not weird – in fact, you’re quite normal. Anal penetration might sound uncomfortable, but if done with some proper lubrication or with some of the products on the market, it can be downright enjoyable for both partners.  On the other hand, you might try giving him some anal entertainment. After all, the right pressure on the prostate is said to trigger mind blowing orgasms. Try a beginner’s butt plug with some anal lubrication and send him over the edge. As with anything new in the bedroom, it’s a good idea to talk before you are already horizontal.

Get Comfortable

Spending a few moments engaged in fellatio can cause all sorts of discomfort. To increase your stamina, address these potential problems before they happen. Here’s how: Shoulder love. If you’re lying down on your belly and your shoulders are below the top of his penis, you are setting yourself up for a sore neck. The further away the shoulders, the more strain on the neck – and the sooner you’ll need to call it quits. Sore neck. If your shoulders are even with his penis while he’s in a chair and you are kneeling in front of him, your neck will take the brunt. The best placement for your shoulders is slightly above the top of his knee.   Pillow Talk. Add a pillow under your knees, if you’re kneeling, or stack a few under your chest if you are lying down. Pillows soften the strain from the ground and can help adjust your position to ease the strain on your neck. Don’t Dive in. The more you rely on suction as your method of pleasuring, the more strain you place on your jaw. There are plenty of other ways to make him moan, and if you want to go more than a few minutes, you need to add these to the mix.

Bedtime Stories

For a moment, imagine being sprawled out on your bed, wearing sexy lingerie, reading a seductive story to your aroused partner. Your voice is ripe and husky as you read, and you’ve got him under order to not touch you until you’re done with the story. Sound cheesy? It does to a lot of people, and you and your partner might feel awkward buying a romance story, but sometimes new things are awkward at first, but getting through that awkwardness leads to great new horizons you never would have experienced before. Agree to try it 2-3 times before writing it off. You both might be quite pleasantly surprised.

Boosting Your Attraction Factor

These two simple moves will kick up you desirability, whether it’s with your main man or a field of strangers. The next time you want to be surrounded with doting guys, or swept off your feet by your partner, try this: Let your hair down: this move should be done in plain sight, and with a not-too over the top swish of your head. Run your fingers through your hair a few times to continue subtly drawing attention to the move. Cross and uncross your legs: the human eye is drawn towards motion, so essentially you’re forcing someone to look at your legs, without their knowledge. Wearing tight pants or a skirt will make this move hotter.

Flirty Tips: The Walk

Is there a right or wrong way to walk? You probably don’t think much about what you look like when you walk, but a few simple adjustments can make a world of difference. To master the walk that will have you leading a pack of salivating men behind you, try this: Shoulders back: Roll your shoulders so they are back and your chest is lifted. Arms loose: let your arms swing gently as you walk. Chin up: you should be able to balance a book on your head. Keep your chin lifted and your eyes off the ground. Step with your heels: Your walk should have the weight in the heels to give your steps a lighter appearance. Hips and knees relaxed: your hips should naturally swivel from side to side in an almost natural figure eight motion.

Share It, Show It

When looking to expand your repertoire with your lover, sometimes you have to get bold. Part of our human wiring for getting turned on is to be stimulated… visually. Of course you know this instinctively, which is why you coif your hair, redden your lips and checks, and don your sexiest nighty when trying to turn on your lover. Another visual component that will excite your sweetheart is letting him see the most private, delicate parts you can share. Tell him ahead of time that you want to show him all of you as you start your lovemaking session. Set up the room ahead of time with warm, flattering light so you feel comfortable in this revealing act. Flirtatiously strip down to your barest self, then tease off your panties and invite him to take a close look. Touch yourself softly so that you start to get your juices flowing, and as you do your vulva will start to get deeper in color and swell. Ask him if he notices the change and you will love the surprised and hungry look on his face as he tells you how much he loves seeing what you have to offer. You can let this foreplay lead where it will, perhaps you will bring yourself to orgasm while he watches, and maybe he will touch himself and join in that fun, too, or he may not want to wait after seeing you like this and dive right in to the main course.